Let’s Talk About Allyship

20200604_170953_0000

 

Hello everyone and welcome back to my little online space.

This post is going to be very different from most of my other posts, because this is going to be very real and a call out for everyone to do better.

I’m going to try to make this make sense and find the right words, but the truth is I’m angry, hurt and so very tired.

Nine days ago, on May 26 2020, protests broke out in the United States, and later on other countries joined in, to demand justice for George Floyd, a 46 year old Black man who was murdered by the police a day before. These protests weren’t only held for George Floyd, but for other victims of police brutality and murder, and I’ll name a few of them: Breonna Taylor, Stephon Clark, Botham Jean; and victims of murder in hands of white individuals an example is Ahmaud Arbery. These protests are about police brutality and systemic racism. These protests are about the disrespect for Black bodies and Black lives. These protests are to show and remind people that Black lives do matter. No matter how much they hate it, we do matter. These protests are about centuries worth of discrimination, hate and murder. These protests are about justice, freedom and equity.

And in this fight we need allies, because like or not we can’t do this alone. Because we need your support and your help. Because we need you to hold out your hand. Because whether we like it or not, despite how unfair it is, white and non Black voices matter to these people than Black voices. It’s despicable, but this is what we’ve come to learn. And now, we turn to this community that we trust and we see that you don’t fucking care!

This isn’t directed to the people who have actually helped. And by these people who have helped, I’m not talking about you who posted a black square on Instagram, or the person who retweeted one tweet and said you know what that’s enough activism and respect for human rights for one day, or the person who only copied and pasted one of those chain tweets. I’m talking about those who protested, donated, sent emails and signed petitions on our behalf. We do appreciate you.

Now back to the people this post is actually for. I simply cannot believe y’all. No wait, I seems I can, but I’m just disgusted and actually hurt. First, let me start with the fact that the book community is a community full of hypocrites. From the publishing houses, agents, authors, bookselling companies to creators, a lot of y’all are hypocrites. We pride ourselves in being this huge, warm, welcoming community. We pride ourselves in diversity and inclusiveness or the illusion of it, but when it comes down to it, you don’t care about Black people. You only care about the lil cookie points you get for your association with us, for reading our books and for taking in our content, content it now reveals you don’t really care about. You only want us as your token Black person. 

You talk all that good talk, but when its time to act, its crickets. 

I have so much to say, but I don’t know how to put them in words so I’ll be giving examples.

“My _ (insert book blog, bookstagram, booktube channel is my safe space.”

Oh honey, that’s sad. Guess what? This space is also supposed to be Black bookish folks safe space, but do you have any idea the discrimination and bullying we face on here. We call out injustices and correct y’all on your bad behaviour, we become the bad guys. We decide to spare ourselves the stress of it, and we still become the bad guys, because we didn’t educate you.

It’s ironic really. What we’re asking of you is to take 20 minutes out of your time. 20 minutes out of 24 fucking hours in a day, out of 1440 minutes. Just 1 part of  the 72 twenty minutes you have in one day to share information and links, to sign petitions, to donate even if its a fucking dollar. We’re asking for so little so that you can make this space safe and the world at large safer for us, but its too much. Your lil white feelings can’t take that.

 

“I have anxiety and depression, and this is stressing me out”

First, fuck you. I also have anxiety and depression. I’ve spent nights over the past few days feeling so fucking empty, crying for people who look like me. I’ve spent nights feeling tired of this existence. 

A lot of Black people suffer from anxiety, depression and PTSD. A lot of literal babies are developing mental illness so young because we’re unsafe. But we have to do this, we have to fight for our right to exist. You do not experience a fraction of what Black people experience, so you cannot be as stressed as we are.

You’re stressed ok then, do you know something that isn’t stressful you can do to support? Retweet links, check up on the friends you say you have, stream videos featuring beautiful pieces of art by Black artists to help donate, opening your fucking purse!

 

“I don’t like sharing political stuff.”

Again, fuck you. Honestly, I’d even go the way of Pidgin English here, but let me not. And let me say it again, fuck you and your little uppity attitude. You don’t like sharing political stuff? How is our fundamental human right to life, political? I am asking for you to help me exist in a safer world and THAT IS POLITICAL?

 

“I don’t have the right words”

Just retweet resources, share pictures with #BlackLivesMatter, opening your fucking purse. No one is asking for your words

 

The lady who equated Black lives to infertility

I really have no words for you, except fuck you, you’re a disgusting person bringing something so many people, including Black people, struggle with and are hurt by.

“Its my space I won’t speak about it, proceeds to block Black creator and posts a black square two days later”

Do I even have to mention how performative this is?

 

“Racism doesn’t exist in Europe”

Lmao. What are you talking about? Europe is the birthplace of racism. Do you need us to pull up the names of our people who you’ve killed or imprisoned.

 

“Black people aren’t family friendly”

I’ve seen a lot of shitty stuff, but this one takes the cake. Just say you’re racist and go.

Now, that we’re done talking about y’all’s bad behaviour. Want to improve? Want to be a proper ally?

Here are ways to be a good ally:

  • Donate to bail funds and families of victims
  • Donate to other Black people in the community that need help
  • Donate to people helping out in protests
  • Stream videos to donate
  • Sign petitions
  • Go to protests. Cops respect white and, let’s face it, non Black bodies than Black people. Shield Black people at protests 
  • Retweet links. Don’t stop retweeting even as the tl moves to another new thing
  • Support Black creatives
  • Buy from Black owned bookshops
  • Buy books by Black authors
  • Publishers and agents, sign on and publish more Black authors. The racial disparity in Publishing is appalling
  • Follow Black content creators
  • Actually give books by Black authors to actual Black readers not middle aged white women on bookstagram tf!
  • Call out your anti-Black family and friends. Start the conversation! Step up and speak up for us
  • Just amplify Black voices, defend us and be a fucking good human being

 

Well, that’s the end of my post. If you don’t like this post and you can’t be bothered to care about our lives; unfollow my blog, block me on all social media my handles are right here. I don’t want to know you freaking exist, because if and when we find you, we will put you on full blast.

I’m fasting today for voluntary 6 days in the month Shawwal and I’ve cursed so many times in this post, may Allah forgive me, but I’m angry. Also, Happy Pride Month. If you don’t support Black queer people and especially Black trans people and you identify as queer or any of the identities in the community, you should be ashamed of yourself.

I’ll be linking some carrds full of ways you can help down below. Black Lives Matter. Have a fucking good day.


Carrds/Links to Help

Resources from Vicky @Vicky Again

Ways To Help gotten from Mina @MinaReadss on twitter (I also recommend watching Mina’s video where she also talks about allyship here ).

 



|Instagram |Twitter | Goodreads | Tip me on Ko-fi

Wrap Up: January & February 2020

20200311_093902_0000

Its time for another wrap up! Ignore the fact its late.

This is going to be wrap up for two months, January and February, because I didn’t make a wrap up post for January.

 

What happened in January and February?

January wasn’t really a month for blogging for me, it was more about planning. I spent most of January planning for the now finished blog series in February, The Black Experience. The Black Experience was a month long blog series in honour of Black History Month about uplifting Black stories and voices.

January was a bit stressful with planning The Black Experience, clinical posting at school and being sick for majority of the month, but I had some amazing moments. I don’t talk much about real life or school here but, in January I went to the cinema for the first time (yes, i’m that much of a homebody, and about that perpetually broke) for a movie marathon with my ex-roommates, worked in obstetrics and gynaecology unit, which I mostly enjoyed and saw some deliveries (babies are cute, but i’m still undecided about the pregnancy business). January while it might have been frustrating some times was still a good month.

February was a lot more stressful than January. The Black Experience went live and I published 26 posts for almost everyday of the month; continued clinical posting but in other units and fields (my anxious ass finally vaccinated children 😭, i’m so proud), was sick again, developed a new theme on bookstagram and had to move rooms.

Doing The Black Experience in February was really fun, especially with some posts where I allowed myself reach peak weirdness. I worked with some amazing authors, and bloggers; people I admired and didn’t ever dream of working with. I won’t say it wasn’t without its problems though. It was a bit stressful to get back from the community or the hospital, take care of myself and post, especially when WordPress and my network provider were hellbent on creating problems for me. I had posts deleted before or just after they were published. I once woke up at midnight with bad cramps to see the post for the previous day deleted. I cried being in pain, having this happen and being stressed working in the hospital without any break after the previous academic year.

My mental health wasn’t so great either. Having no break after the previous year, the anxiety that comes with planning a huge project, especially with it being my first project, the stress of moving, losing someone I cared for and my mental health already being unbalanced for months made my mental health a wild thing.

On the bright side, Harmattan lasted till mid February this time! Its been a while since my favourite season lasted this long, at least in my state. For the first time in over four years, I had dry, chilly air till mid February, feeling the chill every morning and the seeing the sun up made me smile and made things a bit better.

screenshot_20190503-2234547735678579080551639.png

I read 22 books in these two months, that’s almost a third of what I read last year.

I enjoyed some of the books, some I didn’t and I dnf’d one book and it felt amazing.

  • The Wicked King by Holly Black

5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Like The Cruel Prince last year, TWK was my first read of the year. I read it in one sitting. This book is perhaps my favourite book of the series. I left my shocked, stomped on my heart and said I deserve no rights.

  • The Queen of Nothing by Holly Black

5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

I love, love, love QoN. I love the entire series even, its one of my favourite series ever. QoN was the final book we deserved. It ended me, destroyed me and rebirthed me. I’m Holly Black trash. The revelations, the closure. I’m doing a reread of the entire series soon.

  • Conquest by Celeste Harte

4 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐

I can say I started this year with amazing books. Conquest is a beautiful book. The setting, the characters and the little undertones got to me. I loved Conquest, a futuristic fantasy novel with dragons, royalty and a kind of royalty

  • Throw Like A Girl by Sarah Henning

3.5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐★

TLAG was a cute book. The story itself was more ok, but what I was impressed with was the knowledge of the sports the author hard. I literally felt like I was in book, watching the match. I also enjoyed how the characters, were genuine teenagers, real and messy

  • Wicked and The Wallflower by Sarah McLean

4 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐

In case you didn’t know, I love Sarah McLean. She’s one of my favourite historical romance authors, I’m absolute trash for her books. This book absolutely didn’t disappoint. Devil and Felicity were sweet.

  • The Neighbours by Nicole Gill

DNF at 25%

I wasn’t feeling this book. The main character made me angry most of the time and it seemed too slow.

  • That Can Be Arranged by Huda Fahmy

5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Lets talk about one of my favourite books of this year. This graphic novel is so cute, funny and relatable, I read it alk in one sitting. No feelings, heart full.

  • Temptations of A Wallflower by Eva Leigh

2 stars| ⭐⭐

I can’t remember much of this book, but I can remember not being very impressed

  • A Duke By Default (Reluctant Royals #2) by Alyssa Cole

4 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐

I loved this book. I loved Tavish and Portia. I love seeing Portia work on and discover herself. I absolutely loved this book. The amazing mental illness and neurodivergence rep, the characters. I loved it.

  • Royals (Royals #1) by Rachel Hawkins

3 stars| ⭐⭐⭐

Royals was just a cute book. A little cliche, but cute.

  • Marriage of Inconvenience by Debbie Macomber

2 stars| ⭐⭐

This was a reread. I read this book in high school and I loved it then. Now, I wonder what crack fourteen year old was on, because I dislike it now.

  • Stand-In Wife by Debbie Macomber

2 stars| ⭐⭐

Same thoughts as for Marriage of Inconvenience.

February

  • Can’t Escape Love by Alyssa Cole

4 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐

I loved this book. I enjoyed the disabled and neurodivergent rep. I’d recommend this novella to anyone looking for a short, sweet read.

  • Muslim Girl by Umm Zakiyyah

2 stars| ⭐⭐

I read this book for Iqra trials in February and I feel terrible because how much I dislike this book. I have so much to say and its best I finish the review.

  • Indigo by Beverly Jenkins

5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

I am a newly converted fan of Ms Bev. Indigo was my first ever audiobook and I loved it. I loved the narration, the story itself and the characters. Its of my favourite books ever.

  • Cruel Beauty by Rosamund Hodge

4 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐

The only thing I can say is IGNIFEX!!!! This was such an unexpected Beauty and Beast retelling and the heartbreak 😭

  • Gilded Ashes by Rosamund Hodge

2.5|⭐⭐★

It was pretty average and a little disappointing after reading Cruel Beauty.

  • The Princess Trap by Talia Hibbert

3 stars| ⭐⭐⭐

The process of me becoming Talia Gilbert trash began last year with Get A Life, Chloe Brown, and I haven’t looked back since then. The Princess Trap was a really good book, even though I rated it 3 stars. I loved the rep and the characters. I love the male main character and that’s more than I can say for most romances.

  • A Girl Like Her (Ravenswood #1) by Talia Hibbert

5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

I can’t explain how much I love this book. I loved the characters so much, Ruth and Evan are sweetest couple ever. Evan is one of my favourite male characters. He’s so thoughtful and sweet. AGLH has amazing autistic and depression rep as well as commentary on abusive relationships. This book is just amazing.

  • Untouchable (Ravenswood #2) by Talia Hibbert

4 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐

I basically loved all the books in this particular series. I loved Untouchable. It had great depression and anxiety rep. I also loved the conversation it had about sex. It was an amazing book.

  • Through The Storm by Beverly Jenkins

3.5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐★

After reading Indigo, I wanted to see if Raimond had his own story. I liked Through The Storm, but I didn’t love it like I did Indigo, but its a great book.

  • That Kind Of Guy (Ravenswood #3) by Talia Hibbert

4.5 stars| ⭐⭐⭐⭐

I LOVE this book so much. If I have to talk about books that made me feel seen, That Kind Of Guy is of them. Its the second book with a demisexuality I’ve ever read and its so important to me. The demi rep, how Zach felt made me so happy. I’m going to make a post of my favourite quotes from this book, because sometimes when reading I felt I could cry. I’m now unchangeably a Talia Hibbert stan.

screenshot_20190503-2200267094914370755196470.png

Blog Tour: Throw Like A Girl Review

#Diversereadsof2020: 20+ Books By Muslim Authors Releasing In 2020

The Black Experience: Introductory Post

1st Blogiversary And Post Of The Year

The Black Experience: Debut Black Releases In 2020

The Black Experience: Books by Black Authors in 2020 (Part 1)

The Black Experience: Debut Author Corner

The Black Experience: Race Isn’t A Trend

The Black Experience: The Need For More Black Representation

The Black Experience: Favourite books by Black Authors

The Black Experience: The Case For Black Mediocrity

The Black Experience: Fantasy Books Inspired By Caribbean & African Lore

The Black Experience: Being An African Blogger

That Can Be Arranged [ARC Review]

The Black Experience: Books by Black Authors in 2020 (Part 2)

The Black Experience: Favourite books with Black characters in love

The Black Experience: Favourite Black Content Creators

The Black Experience: The Danger Of The Single Story

The Black Experience: Books with Black Aromantic characters/ by Black Aro Authors

The Black Experience: Being Black And Muslim

The Black Experience: Anime recs with Black Characters

The Black Experience: Unicorn At The End Of The Rainbow — Black Muslims In Media

The Black Experience: Graphic Novels/Comics With Black Representation

The Black Experience: Classifying Nigerian Music Genres As Book Genres

The Black Experience: Books With Black Characters That Made Me Feel Seen

The Black Experience: Tokenism In Literature — Black Bodies As Love Interests And Sidekicks

The Black Experience: Queer Books By Black Authors

The Black Experience: Colonial Mindset — The Nigerian Case

The Black Experience: Books By Black Authors In 2020 (Extra)

The Black Experience: The Òrìṣà Inspired Book Tag

Plans for March

This month, I intend to catch up on all my ARCs; continue participating in the #Iqratrails, supporting Black, Muslim, queer and other diverse stories. I also plan on putting out more reviews and catching up on my outstanding reviews, and finally using mg new TBR system.

I also want to get back into writing, I’ve missed it, and give more attention to my critique partner, who has been so understanding these past few months.

I hope all my plans go well.


What are your plans for this month?


screenshot_20190503-2142548713823118049865777.png


|Instagram |Twitter | Goodreads | Tip me on Ko-fi |

Things White People Should Stop Doing When Reading Diverse Books: Issue #1

Hey, everyone! I’m back again with a new topic/rant, and I think from the name is pretty self explanatory.

I love bookish communities, I really do. Goodreads, bookish twitter, bookstagram, book blog communities, bookstagram, they’re really helpful both to authors and readers alike, but the most insensitive, annoying and toxic things happen on there too. For example, and particularly related to this rant, white readers and reviewers picking on books written by POC for the most illogical and insensible reasons. This seems to happen more on Goodreads, but other bookish communities aren’t left out of this too.

Today, my rant is on POC names and the rather annoying way some white readers react to seeing them in books and Oh God, please don’t!

A while back, I saw a review on a book by an author of colour and in the comments someone made a really insensitive and annoying comment about the character’s, who was also a person of colour, name. That was not the first time I was seeing something like that and I’m pretty sure it isn’t the only comment or review with such insensitive and bigoted view. Also, not too long ago again, I read a blog post with an element of this, and being on bookish twitter this isn’t so new to me, but that didn’t make it any less annoying or appalling.

Firstly, I honestly don’t understand if some white readers do not know that other cultures exist, and that POC have different naming patterns and oh…languages in which they are named too. I mean it must be shocking right?! The fact we have a totally different way of life and structure for naming, because what the hell does “x character has a weird name” or “Wtf, I hate x book, I couldn’t pronounce x character’s name.” or “is this even a real name?” mean? I don’t know is Longbottom or Hitchcock a real name?

Was the last line annoying? It was right? I apologise if those examples were anyone’s names, I was trying to make a point. Its super annoying for POC to see you invalidate or declare our names insensible or freakish, and it hurts too. That is exactly what you do when you make post like that you make us feel other, because a lot of people share names with characters.

Can you imagine how you’d feel if some stranger, both to you and your culture, said you name was odd or outright made fun of it? I’d feel horrible if someone did that to me, and seeing that I have experience with people making a mockery of my name, I felt like absolute trash.

For most people of colour, and I can only speak for my culture and the ones I know of, our names are so important to us. For some, they’re like stories.

The same way names like Jane, Elle, Sam, Stone and Brown are valid is the same way POC names Tachi, Somto, Simple, Anu, Ododo, Khalil and Huang are. The fact that they don’t follow the trends or rules you know, doesn’t mean they are not valid or that you have the right to mock them or be rude to authors of colour for wanting to use something from their culture.

I apologise again for the statement I made before, I just wanted a practical example and meant no harm. If those are your names, I’m sure they have interesting origins or stories begin them and I mean no insult.

If you’re one of those people, who make unkind (I don’t want to use the word nasty, although it perfectly describes some readers) comments about POC names, I hope you know not to do so again. If you’re confused about names, as it could happen to anyone when reading books with an element of another culture, Google is there and pretty helpful. I’ve learned so amazing things about other cultures too from my efforts and not making a mockery of another people’s way of life.


I hope I was able get my message across *awkward laugh*. Have an amazing day! 💗

|Instagram | Twitter | Goodreads | Tip me on Ko-fi |

Review Etiquette 101: A course some reviewers seem to have missed [A Controlled Rant]

Hey, everyone. So today I’m back with a topic that well, makes my blood boil. The lack of etiquette some reviewers seem to have.

Ok, so like I said in the heading, this would be kind of a rant, a controlled one, so I do miss the point while in anger.

So a couple of days ago, I was on Goodreads checking a review on book I was about to read; and like every other book out there, and as it should be since its is only rational, I came across positive and negative reviews of the book. But some reviewer seem to lack basic etiquette and probably didn’t even know what respectful terms mean (shocking right? i guess. not, i think we’ve all run into this kind of reviews).

Lets get this straight, I don’t mind negative reviews at all. I’ve written some, will probably write some more, as everyone cannot like the same books or have the same taste. And I’m all for saying the truth about how you found a book because you’ll be helping writers grow to and lying about a book you didn’t like isn’t right. Everyone has a right to express their thoughts, but, oh my God please, do it respectfully. It doesn’t kill to be respectful of other people preferences or the author’s work (because writing is hard), except if the book is inherently harmful to a group of people; but I’m not sure everyone knows this.

On booktsagram a while ago (you can find me here. shameless plug i know lol), I asked a question about how readers feel about writing negative reviews and the response I got mostly agreed, that although negative reviews themselves aren’t bad, and its great to be honest about how you feel about book, you should to be polite when wording your review. And I haven’t agreed to anything more before.

Be polite and respectful of the author and the people who had liked the book. Don’t go around calling the book trash and the people who liked it tasteless, because that in itself is tasteless. Do no use words like “the people who had thought this book was good have never read a good ‘insert category/genre/type here book.”. Oh yes, I saw that. And my first reaction was “what the actual fuck!”. You might not like it but you’re going a little far there. You don’t need to insult others and their taste just because you didn’t agree with their views or can’t see the book the way they see it; just politely say “although other reviewers might have liked this book or rated it highly, but i couldn’t see the book as they did.”. That’s all. That’s fucking all you need to say. No need to be edgy and insult others. That tasteless.

Also, you can criticise the concept and execution of a book, without outright saying or implying its trash, and yes I’ve seen this again on Goodreads multiple times. Like don’t, please don’t. It makes people less likely to read another review from you again.

I’ve seen other reviewers write negative reviews of the same books better, more eloquently. Stating politely or amicably what they didn’t like about the book without having to result to cheap insults. Those reviews help me see their side clearly, pointed out some shortcomings of the book that I might have overlooked or might not have seen as anything wrong, but just didn’t do it for them. For these reviews I’m grateful, because I can understand everyone’s side of the reading table.

So to round this rant up, I’ll be giving out the basic rules and etiquette for reviewers as given by readers on bookstagram (you can read the comments here)

★The only and most important rule, when writing a negative review be polite.

Don’t insult authors and fellow readers, except if the book in question is very harmful to particular group of people, and even if it is cheap insults are the last resort that shouldn’t be even used. Word your complaints/rants as politely as you can.

★Another rule, be constructive or try to be, because sometimes being constructive is hard.

If you’re not constructive, your review would be pointless and no one would take it seriously, even if you have great reasons for disliking the book.

I know that these points aren’t exactly easy to follow, especially when you’re raging mad about a book, but its best to be respectful.

Well rant over! I hope you all have a lovely day. Thank you for reading my rant, till next time <3.

If you have anything to say, do leave a comment!

|Instagram |Twitter | Goodreads | Tip me on Ko-fi |